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Phone Call This Morning

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The weather’s beautiful in Seattle this morning. The sun has been out both days I’ve been here.

Not a full minute after I opened my eyes I received a phone call from Belinda. She’s had two knocks on the door at home and didn’t know who it might be at such an early hour, so she didn’t answer. While we were talking on our cell phones the office phone rang. Belinda didn’t answer, but recognized the number. It was one of our models.

I hung up with Belinda and called the girl back from my cell to see what she needed. She answered in tears. I knew right away what the problem was: someone she knows found her photos online. She begged me to do something to get her off the internet, but there’s really nothing I can do. The companies who own the copyrights will not remove them. I know this from experience.

When interviewing models I tell them it’s very likely someone they know will find them. But no matter how often a model hears this, she either doesn’t care or never thinks it will happen to her. Yes, perhaps someone else will be found, but not me. My dad doesn’t even own a computer. My uncles would never be surfing porn sites. Etc. Etc. Etc.

On top of being told verbally, models have to sign a five page release that makes it clear what they can expect. For some reason it seems the more they are warned, the more they want to pose. I guess that’s just human nature.

The girl this morning told me some of her friends found her photos, which somehow led to her father finding out as well as her employer. She works at a business owned by a Christian woman who is now implying she may be fired. Her father is disappointed in her. Her boyfriend is telling her that he’s “not going to date a porn star”.

The model herself doesn’t think posing was that big a deal and can’t understand why everyone is making it to be one, but her life at this moment is very stressful, to say the least.

This has happened before, of course. If this particular incident follows the patterns of the past it will blow over in a few days and settle down. But it illustrates exactly what I mean when I tell people that I have little personal attraction to pornography. When asked why I say this I tell them, “When I see a pornographic image or video, instead of seeing what the model is doing in the photo or video I see her two weeks after it was shot. The money has been spent and she’s crying on the phone asking that her photos be removed because her family has found out and are telling her that she’s shamed them.”

I used to reconcile these problems by reminding myself that the model had been warned and made her own decision. Even so, it would take a very cold person not to feel her pain. I take responsibility for the part I played.

I am so glad I won’t be producing porn anymore.

30 thoughts on “Phone Call This Morning

  1. See the problem is not with what you were doing but it is society’s view of what you were doing.Why can’t a person over 18 years of age pose nude? Why is that so shameful? Is it really hurting anyone? How is posing nude different then posing in slutty outfits in maxim? It’s all done to stimulate the viewer….again not hurting anyone.Same people that have the shameful attitude towards porn have no problem with stores selling smokes (they hurt people)…..what about alcohol? it’s hurt many people, many innocent people.If anything porn is actual a positive on society….it give the viewer release that they need seeing how we are all human (i believe rapes are down since the internet was created, i don’t know that for a fact but I think I read that somewhere)….humans are just like animals…there’s no difference other the fact that we are smarter….instead of building dams like beavers we build houses.lol ok rant over 🙂

  2. See the problem is not with what you were doing but it is society’s view of what you were doing.

    Why can’t a person over 18 years of age pose nude? Why is that so shameful? Is it really hurting anyone?

    How is posing nude different then posing in slutty outfits in maxim? It’s all done to stimulate the viewer….again not hurting anyone.

    Same people that have the shameful attitude towards porn have no problem with stores selling smokes (they hurt people)…..what about alcohol? it’s hurt many people, many innocent people.

    If anything porn is actual a positive on society….it give the viewer release that they need seeing how we are all human (i believe rapes are down since the internet was created, i don’t know that for a fact but I think I read that somewhere)….humans are just like animals…there’s no difference other the fact that we are smarter….instead of building dams like beavers we build houses.

    lol ok rant over 🙂

  3. Jan, are you kidding?! Do you really think pornography doesn’t hurt anyone? Do you really believe porn has a positive impact on society? And that sex-related crimes are down because of it? Surely you know that the statistics will spin whichever direction the money goes.Pornography and it’s complete proliferation of the internet has become the crushing last straw on the camel’s back of American morals. You were right about one thing: mags like Maxim are doing it too. But that doesn’t make it right. It just puts a more acceptable price tag on it so they can sell their wares in grocery stores instead of sleezy dark corners of porn shops. Pathetic.

  4. Jan, are you kidding?! Do you really think pornography doesn’t hurt anyone? Do you really believe porn has a positive impact on society? And that sex-related crimes are down because of it? Surely you know that the statistics will spin whichever direction the money goes.

    Pornography and it’s complete proliferation of the internet has become the crushing last straw on the camel’s back of American morals.

    You were right about one thing: mags like Maxim are doing it too. But that doesn’t make it right. It just puts a more acceptable price tag on it so they can sell their wares in grocery stores instead of sleezy dark corners of porn shops. Pathetic.

  5. ang,That’s right….looking at naked women is the cause of all the world’s problems…going to war, spending trillions on weapons while people in the world starve from lack of food, taxing alcohol and tobacco which kill thousands daily, that’s alright….but god forbid you see janet jackson’s nipple for a second….and then there are the gays….yep, that’s right…makes alot of sense[end sarcasm]

  6. ang,

    That’s right….looking at naked women is the cause of all the world’s problems…

    going to war, spending trillions on weapons while people in the world starve from lack of food, taxing alcohol and tobacco which kill thousands daily, that’s alright….

    but god forbid you see janet jackson’s nipple for a second….and then there are the gays….

    yep, that’s right…makes alot of sense

    [end sarcasm]

  7. So I am wondering, is Belinda still producing porn? Will she be moving with you for this new job?

  8. So I am wondering, is Belinda still producing porn? Will she be moving with you for this new job?

  9. Why in the heck are so many posters here remaining “anonymous”? This guy has gone out on a limb to confess his sin publicly, and yet most of those attacking him for his courage continue to hide behind a moniker?

  10. Why in the heck are so many posters here remaining “anonymous”? This guy has gone out on a limb to confess his sin publicly, and yet most of those attacking him for his courage continue to hide behind a moniker?

  11. ang, Keep spewing the drivel that was shoved down your throat. A naked body on the internet hurts nobody and you are too ridiculous for words to think it does.

  12. ang,

    Keep spewing the drivel that was shoved down your throat. A naked body on the internet hurts nobody and you are too ridiculous for words to think it does.

  13. Given the widespread use of pornography, it’s easy for many people (men mostly) to discount the danger of pornography. However, there are extremely powerful arguments and vivid illustrations of how pornography destroys lives of all parties involved. Check out this website: http://www.victmsofpornography.org

  14. Given the widespread use of pornography, it’s easy for many people (men mostly) to discount the danger of pornography. However, there are extremely powerful arguments and vivid illustrations of how pornography destroys lives of all parties involved. Check out this website:

    http://www.victmsofpornography.org

  15. I think I read somewhere that porn hurts many people, and alot of people are struggling to break away from its addiction cuz its hurting their relationship with their wife and kids. I don’t know that for a fact but I think I read that somewhere. BTW, humans are not like animals. We own them.

  16. I think I read somewhere that porn hurts many people, and alot of people are struggling to break away from its addiction cuz its hurting their relationship with their wife and kids. I don’t know that for a fact but I think I read that somewhere.
    BTW, humans are not like animals. We
    own them.

  17. I’d say the girl I mentioned in this blog entry was hurt, wouldn’t you?

  18. I’d say the girl I mentioned in this blog entry was hurt, wouldn’t you?

  19. Donny….I was in porn for over 12 years. It took me a solid 2 years to get out completely. As of about 4-6 months ago I was completely out. It’s not easy man…it’s VERY VERY hard to not turn back. It can be done though. You need an exit plan and stick to it. Sacrifice!

  20. Donny….I was in porn for over 12 years. It took me a solid 2 years to get out completely. As of about 4-6 months ago I was completely out. It’s not easy man…it’s VERY VERY hard to not turn back. It can be done though. You need an exit plan and stick to it. Sacrifice!

  21. Donny,Yes she got hurt, but what caused her to get hurt?Other people’s judging her about posing naked.After she posed naked for you, was she hurt? highly doubt it.Again my original point was “See the problem is not with what you were doing but it is society’s view of what you were doing.”But hey that’s just me….too each his own….good luck with the new life, I truly mean that.

  22. Donny,

    Yes she got hurt, but what caused her to get hurt?

    Other people’s judging her about posing naked.

    After she posed naked for you, was she hurt? highly doubt it.

    Again my original point was “See the problem is not with what you were doing but it is society’s view of what you were doing.”

    But hey that’s just me….too each his own….good luck with the new life, I truly mean that.

  23. one simple fact:The world is not perfect!You can wish for a different world all you want, even try to change it. But we all live in the world as it is…. And porn models obviusly do get hurt?

  24. one simple fact:
    The world is not perfect!

    You can wish for a different world all you want, even try to change it. But we all live in the world as it is…. And porn models obviusly do get hurt?

  25. Jan,Check out 1John 5:19 Might be a stretch for you, but I’ll summize. It tells us this world is under the influence of the “evil one” and we need to stay in the light so that no one will be able to say anything bad about us. Just becaues “the world” tells you it’s OK, doesn’t mean it is. What “the world” wants, doesn’t mean it’s good for you…that’s why we are to live as Christ would have lived. That’s what good for us….don’t confuse politics with religion. People like Foley are just a big a jackass as the next guy. We’re still human and f’ up frequently…..Unsaved people are just as judgemental as the saved.

  26. Jan,

    Check out 1John 5:19 Might be a stretch for you, but I’ll summize. It tells us this world is under the influence of the “evil one” and we need to stay in the light so that no one will be able to say anything bad about us. Just becaues “the world” tells you it’s OK, doesn’t mean it is. What “the world” wants, doesn’t mean it’s good for you…that’s why we are to live as Christ would have lived. That’s what good for us….don’t confuse politics with religion. People like Foley are just a big a jackass as the next guy. We’re still human and f’ up frequently…..Unsaved people are just as judgemental as the saved.

  27. To all,

    I think the reason why the girl got hurt was because reality eventually caught up with her. You see, after she posed for Donny she was living in her own fantasy world without considering the feelings of the people she truly loved and cared about.

    But these girls will sooner or later have to face the fact that there is such a thing as SHAME. And by the way, that’s the reason why we don’t walk around naked. Only human beings have the shame and decency to wear clothes. We are not animals. We’re humans made in the image of God.

    Pain and hurt, both in the individual and in the ones they love, are indicators that there is something wrong. Discord means there’s something wrong. This only shows that there is something truly wrong with PORNOGRAPHY!

    FRANZ

  28. To all,

    I think the reason why the girl got hurt was because reality eventually caught up with her. You see, after she posed for Donny she was living in her own fantasy world without considering the feelings of the people she truly loved and cared about.

    But these girls will sooner or later have to face the fact that there is such a thing as SHAME. And by the way, that’s the reason why we don’t walk around naked. Only human beings have the shame and decency to wear clothes. We are not animals. We’re humans made in the image of God.

    Pain and hurt, both in the individual and in the ones they love, are indicators that there is something wrong. Discord means there’s something wrong. This only shows that there is something truly wrong with PORNOGRAPHY!

    FRANZ

  29. Donny,

    I salute you man! God be with you in your new and exciting journey with Him.

    Franz

  30. Donny,

    I salute you man! God be with you in your new and exciting journey with Him.

    Franz

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