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Porn Stories: A Crying Model Just Left My House

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The porn stories series begins a little earlier than expected.

For the last half hour Belinda and I have been consoling a crying girl who showed up at our house this evening. She begged and pleaded for us to have her photos removed from the internet. Her life, in her own words, has “become a living hell”.

She lost a good job because, according to her boss, she “has too much drama in her life right now”. What is that supposed to mean? It means the boss grew weary of her co-workers talking about the “porn star” in their midst. She was made aware that her presence disrupted the company.

Her boyfriend will leave her if the photos can’t be removed from the internet. He can’t bear having friends teasing him about his “porn star” girlfriend exposing everything for all the world to see.

She told me, “I never thought anyone I knew would see these. There are thousands of websites out there. I just didn’t think they’d be found.”

She begged and pleaded to return the money she was paid in exchange for her photos being removed from the sites for which she’d posed. I had to let her know there is nothing I can do for her. There are hundreds of producers around the world, all of whom have models that change their minds and want to reverse their decision to work in the adult industry. The companies to whom we sell our content generally ignore all requests for removal.

Barely a week ago, this model found out she’s pregnant. She cried as she explained her horror at the thought of her child being teased about having a mother who was involved in pornography.

She’s been dealing with this for weeks, and finally showed up on my door because she doesn’t know what else to do. The stress is overwhelming, and can’t possibly be good for her developing baby.

Unfortunately, removing her photo and video content from the internet (if that were even possible – which it’s not) would not end her problem. The people who have been circulating this material have undoubtedly saved it to their hard drives. They’ll continue sharing it even if the content is pulled.

If, in the future, this model applies for a position that requires a morality clause be signed (a practice that is becoming more popular all the time, by the way) this girl will not qualify. I know this from experience, as another of my models lost a position due to such a clause. This girl’s entire future was changed for the worst when she posed for us on June 26th, 2006.

This story is tame in comparison to those I’ll share with you in the future. But this one is bad enough.

And let’s call it as it is, folks: consumers of porn are not without blame. In a world that lives by the rules of supply and demand, the customer ultimately initiates the entire process. If there was no demand, I would never have produced content of this model. I would never have had the money to use to entice her. We all fuel this vehicle called pornography. We’re all in it together.

58 thoughts on “Porn Stories: A Crying Model Just Left My House

  1. Your last line reminds me of a song from High SchoolMusical. “We’re all in this together once we know we’re all stars…when we stand hand in hand and make our dreams come true.” If only life was as simple as Disney musical. But even in fairytales there are villians and the devil is more cunning that Snow White’s step-mother. The Bible says “our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” So Donny, what you’re doing with your life, your blog and just being a shoulder to cry on is fighting against the powers of this dark world. So keep up the good work!!

    • Why nor we all bring back the LOST SHEEPS IN THIS WORLD TO ITS CREATOR (GOD THE FATHER) and make Heaven to rejoice…..!

  2. Your last line reminds me of a song from High School
    Musical. “We’re all in this together once we know we’re all stars…when we stand hand in hand and make our dreams come true.” If only life was as simple as Disney musical. But even in fairytales there are villians and the devil is more cunning that Snow White’s step-mother. The Bible says “our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” So Donny, what you’re doing with your life, your blog and just being a shoulder to cry on is fighting against the powers of this dark world. So keep up the good work!!

  3. “Her boyfriend will leave her if the photos can’t be removed from the internet. He can’t bear having friends teasing him about his “porn star” girlfriend exposing everything for all the world to see.”Sounds like her boyfriend needs to get some self esteem, or perhaps she deserves better.Donny, You have always appreciated my honesty. You know that I will call it as I see it, no matter what your readers think of me. …and I could care less.Honestly, I haven’t seen or felt nothing on my quest for truth. I’m starting to think that I was right all along. Likely, there is no god. “IF” that is the case, then you are really screwing up your life right now. <– read that twice! I so, hope, that you are 100% positive that you are right. You are giving up way more then a few personal (expensive) possessions. You are about to lose someone special that I care a lot about. I really HATE to see that happen. That is my honest opinion.I don’t care what everyone else thinks about my opinions, I only care what YOU think!-John

  4. “Her boyfriend will leave her if the photos can’t be removed from the internet. He can’t bear having friends teasing him about his “porn star” girlfriend exposing everything for all the world to see.”

    Sounds like her boyfriend needs to get some self esteem, or perhaps she deserves better.

    Donny,
    You have always appreciated my honesty. You know that I will call it as I see it, no matter what your readers think of me. …and I could care less.
    Honestly, I haven’t seen or felt nothing on my quest for truth. I’m starting to think that I was right all along. Likely, there is no god.

    “IF” that is the case, then you are really screwing up your life right now. <-- read that twice!
    I so, hope, that you are 100% positive that you are right.
    You are giving up way more then a few personal (expensive) possessions. You are about to lose someone special that I care a lot about. I really HATE to see that happen. That is my honest opinion.
    I don’t care what everyone else thinks about my opinions, I only care what YOU think!
    -John

  5. What kind of guy is this womans boyfriend if he got her pregnant and he cares more about what he friends think than that this new child is going to need a father around?

  6. What kind of guy is this womans boyfriend if he got her pregnant and he cares more about what he friends think than that this new child is going to need a father around?

  7. “What kind of guy is this womans boyfriend if he got her pregnant and he cares more about what he friends think than that this new child is going to need a father around?”Amen!

  8. “What kind of guy is this womans boyfriend if he got her pregnant and he cares more about what he friends think than that this new child is going to need a father around?”

    Amen!

  9. Anonymous said…What kind of guy is this womans boyfriend if he got her pregnant and he cares more about what he friends think than that this new child is going to need a father around?tha is what I told her…. I would not stick with a guy who was more concerned about that and what people would think instead of raising a kid and supporting her. He won’t be a good father if that is the case.

  10. Anonymous said…
    What kind of guy is this womans boyfriend if he got her pregnant and he cares more about what he friends think than that this new child is going to need a father around?

    tha is what I told her…. I would not stick with a guy who was more concerned about that and what people would think instead of raising a kid and supporting her. He won’t be a good father if that is the case.

  11. Anonymous,From the way the model was talking tonight, I’m not sure she’s told her boyfriend that she’s pregnant.

  12. Anonymous,

    From the way the model was talking tonight, I’m not sure she’s told her boyfriend that she’s pregnant.

  13. Some people’s kids.

  14. Some people’s kids.

  15. Awww her life is hell now and would have been just wonderful had she never posed for the evil Donny. WRONGThe simple fact that she thinks her life is hell over exposed boobs tells me her life will be hell no matter what. You talk as if you tempted her with life changing money to drop her panties for the camera when in fact it’s probably no more than a few hundred bucks. I hope she learned a valuable lesson along the way and figured out that her boyfriend isn’t worth keeping around.Did you tell this girl that nobody would ever see her or did you do the usual and let her know that most likely everyone she knows will find out? I’d guess the latter.

  16. Awww her life is hell now and would have been just wonderful had she never posed for the evil Donny.

    WRONG

    The simple fact that she thinks her life is hell over exposed boobs tells me her life will be hell no matter what.

    You talk as if you tempted her with life changing money to drop her panties for the camera when in fact it’s probably no more than a few hundred bucks. I hope she learned a valuable lesson along the way and figured out that her boyfriend isn’t worth keeping around.

    Did you tell this girl that nobody would ever see her or did you do the usual and let her know that most likely everyone she knows will find out? I’d guess the latter.

  17. “I hope she learned a valuable lesson along the way and figured out that her boyfriend isn’t worth keeping around.”Agreed, and that lesson alone is worth more then the money that she was paid.

  18. “I hope she learned a valuable lesson along the way and figured out that her boyfriend isn’t worth keeping around.”

    Agreed, and that lesson alone is worth more then the money that she was paid.

  19. “Agreed, and that lesson alone is worth more then the money that she was paid.”Or the pain and suffering she is going through today. 😉

  20. “Agreed, and that lesson alone is worth more then the money that she was paid.”

    Or the pain and suffering she is going through today. 😉

  21. donny,looks like you’re really opening up yourself with these stories. for criticism from friends and strangers. i don’t think there is anything wrong with criticism necessarily. i love john’s honesty, everyone needs a friend like that in their life (john how far and long are you willing to go for truth? it may be that your road in search of God has just begun and the silence you experience is a necessary space for you right now. or it may be as you said, there is no God. either way i support your journey).back to the criticism. it sucks to be criticized. i think so anyway, but sometimes its healthy for us (granted sometimes criticism is filled with hatred and infestation). i support you donny. you’re doing what you believe you should be doing and i don’t think it’s harming anyone for you to share your experiences. if its ok to post these pictures after the girls have changed their minds about posing for them, then it MUST be ok for you to share your stories. and only you can measure the extent of your responsibility in these instances. i may have criticism for you at some point. in regards to ‘these girls knew what they were getting into when they posed for the photos’ (how many of us really know what we’re getting into when we’ve never been to where we will arrive? and who are we to try to minimize their regret? we’ve not posed nude for the world to see, and even if we have, we arent them. they may need to process with regret and remorse, vowing never to make what they consider a mistake like that again.)people always lose when they choose God. the lose possesions, loved friends, wives, husbands, jobs, respect, etc. (this is in reference to “You are giving up way more then a few personal (expensive) possessions. You are about to lose someone special that I care a lot about.”) people never understand how we could ‘give up’ someone or something for a God they don’t believe exists. but in regards to your personal life, it doesn’t matter what they believe, or i believe…only what you believe. your former posts reveal to me that you believe your relationship with God is worth more than anything. people will never understand that unless they experience it, so please don’t blame john for being honest with you about how he feels. i applaud him for his integrity in his honesty with you and for his own search.’what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, if in the process, he loses his true self?’brad

  22. donny,

    looks like you’re really opening up yourself with these stories. for criticism from friends and strangers. i don’t think there is anything wrong with criticism necessarily. i love john’s honesty, everyone needs a friend like that in their life (john how far and long are you willing to go for truth? it may be that your road in search of God has just begun and the silence you experience is a necessary space for you right now. or it may be as you said, there is no God. either way i support your journey).

    back to the criticism. it sucks to be criticized. i think so anyway, but sometimes its healthy for us (granted sometimes criticism is filled with hatred and infestation). i support you donny. you’re doing what you believe you should be doing and i don’t think it’s harming anyone for you to share your experiences. if its ok to post these pictures after the girls have changed their minds about posing for them, then it MUST be ok for you to share your stories. and only you can measure the extent of your responsibility in these instances. i may have criticism for you at some point.

    in regards to ‘these girls knew what they were getting into when they posed for the photos’ (how many of us really know what we’re getting into when we’ve never been to where we will arrive? and who are we to try to minimize their regret? we’ve not posed nude for the world to see, and even if we have, we arent them. they may need to process with regret and remorse, vowing never to make what they consider a mistake like that again.)

    people always lose when they choose God. the lose possesions, loved friends, wives, husbands, jobs, respect, etc. (this is in reference to “You are giving up way more then a few personal (expensive) possessions. You are about to lose someone special that I care a lot about.”) people never understand how we could ‘give up’ someone or something for a God they don’t believe exists. but in regards to your personal life, it doesn’t matter what they believe, or i believe…only what you believe. your former posts reveal to me that you believe your relationship with God is worth more than anything. people will never understand that unless they experience it, so please don’t blame john for being honest with you about how he feels. i applaud him for his integrity in his honesty with you and for his own search.

    ‘what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, if in the process, he loses his true self?’

    brad

  23. “in regards to ‘these girls knew what they were getting into when they posed for the photos’ (how many of us really know what we’re getting into when we’ve never been to where we will arrive?”Ah my friend, but that is the entire point.As for criticism, well Donny has never been one to keep his opinions to himself. I’d wager he welcomes opinions from everyone regardless of whether or not they agree.

  24. “in regards to ‘these girls knew what they were getting into when they posed for the photos’ (how many of us really know what we’re getting into when we’ve never been to where we will arrive?”

    Ah my friend, but that is the entire point.

    As for criticism, well Donny has never been one to keep his opinions to himself. I’d wager he welcomes opinions from everyone regardless of whether or not they agree.

  25. Donny, I hope you read this soon. You should really kill the text on your site under “SHOW YOUR SUPPORT:” as it will get you B4L.

  26. Donny, I hope you read this soon. You should really kill the text on your site under “SHOW YOUR SUPPORT:” as it will get you B4L.

  27. What’s B4L?

  28. What’s B4L?

  29. “As for criticism, well Donny has never been one to keep his opinions to himself. I’d wager he welcomes opinions from everyone regardless of whether or not they agree.”True,The day that Donny becomes offended for me voicing my opinion would be the day that I consider him fully converted. I hope that day never comes.I knew Donny way before he and Belinda had met. When they first got together, I thought for sure that she was a gold digger. It took me a long time to change that thought.I’m now used to knowing them as Donny and Belinda, as a couple. I hate seeing couples break up. I still have hope that they will get over their differences, it is never too late.This is what I was trying to say last night when the budweiser made it sound far more controversial. Belinda might not be in to the whole “God” thing, but she is an incredible person. I wish that you all had a chance to know her as I have.

  30. “As for criticism, well Donny has never been one to keep his opinions to himself. I’d wager he welcomes opinions from everyone regardless of whether or not they agree.”

    True,
    The day that Donny becomes offended for me voicing my opinion would be the day that I consider him fully converted. I hope that day never comes.
    I knew Donny way before he and Belinda had met. When they first got together, I thought for sure that she was a gold digger. It took me a long time to change that thought.
    I’m now used to knowing them as Donny and Belinda, as a couple. I hate seeing couples break up. I still have hope that they will get over their differences, it is never too late.
    This is what I was trying to say last night when the budweiser made it sound far more controversial.
    Belinda might not be in to the whole “God” thing, but she is an incredible person. I wish that you all had a chance to know her as I have.

  31. The day that Donny becomes offended for me voicing my opinion would be the day that I consider him fully converted. I hope that day never comes.The day I do that will be the day I am NOT truly converted, because at that point I would no longer be living a life “like Christ” would never be offended by someone voicing their opinion.Belinda might not be in to the whole “God” thing, but she is an incredible person. I wish that you all had a chance to know her as I have.Belinda is a very amazing person and I love her very much. As you know, there is more to our situation than meets the eye. Belinda and I can’t remain together because Belinda is not ready to stop producing pornography and I simply can’t be involved in that in any way. It would be too easy to step back into it if I stayed together with her. I’d feel the need to step in and help if she experienced a tough situation, or if she needed help closing a deal with a client or… whatever. The temptation to produce porn has left me, but the instinct of a man to help his woman would never leave, and if I stay with her there will undoubtedly come a time when I gave in to that instinct. And even if it was something small, it would eventually lead to more and more, until I was back into it full time.So as sad and heart wrenching as it may be, I have to separate myself from the business in any way possible.If Belinda wasn’t producing porn I could remain very close to her and perhaps even continue our relationship even if she had no interest in God. Unfortunately that is not the case. —–Let’s remove the topic of God altogether: I am done with porn. I can no longer feel good about myself being so selfish that I’m willing to hurt others (like the girl in this blog entry) in order to make a living. I simply do not want to be involved in it anymore.

  32. The day that Donny becomes offended for me voicing my opinion would be the day that I consider him fully converted. I hope that day never comes.

    The day I do that will be the day I am NOT truly converted, because at that point I would no longer be living a life “like Christ” would never be offended by someone voicing their opinion.

    Belinda might not be in to the whole “God” thing, but she is an incredible person. I wish that you all had a chance to know her as I have.

    Belinda is a very amazing person and I love her very much. As you know, there is more to our situation than meets the eye.

    Belinda and I can’t remain together because Belinda is not ready to stop producing pornography and I simply can’t be involved in that in any way. It would be too easy to step back into it if I stayed together with her. I’d feel the need to step in and help if she experienced a tough situation, or if she needed help closing a deal with a client or… whatever. The temptation to produce porn has left me, but the instinct of a man to help his woman would never leave, and if I stay with her there will undoubtedly come a time when I gave in to that instinct. And even if it was something small, it would eventually lead to more and more, until I was back into it full time.

    So as sad and heart wrenching as it may be, I have to separate myself from the business in any way possible.

    If Belinda wasn’t producing porn I could remain very close to her and perhaps even continue our relationship even if she had no interest in God. Unfortunately that is not the case.

    —–

    Let’s remove the topic of God altogether: I am done with porn. I can no longer feel good about myself being so selfish that I’m willing to hurt others (like the girl in this blog entry) in order to make a living. I simply do not want to be involved in it anymore.

  33. wow… I wonder if there is anything we can do Donny?…John,I doubt you’ll ever see Donny be offended by what you say. But that’s personal opinionDonny, keep us updated.Ron

  34. wow… I wonder if there is anything we can do Donny?

    John,

    I doubt you’ll ever see Donny be offended by what you say. But that’s personal opinion

    Donny, keep us updated.
    Ron

  35. You know sometimes our Quest for truth moves us further away from God, because we don’t want to accept what we find. If you want to find God, He will be known to you. He is Truth. There is a saying that one of my professors told me one day and I forget who is quoted saying it and I know I will butcher it.If you follow Christ and believe in his teaching and when that day comes and their truly is a God, then you have gained everything.If you follow Christ and believe in his teaching and when that day comes that you perish and there is nothing after death, no heaven, no afterlife, etc. If that is the case then you have gained nothing.But if you do not follow Christ and accept Him and follow His will, and you die, and you there is a God and you have not been following Him, then you will lose everything.I hope that kind of makes sense to you, easier to say than to type.One day we all will have to have a “morality clause” and nothing will be left out. But it just depends on if all will be forgiven.

  36. You know sometimes our Quest for truth moves us further away from God, because we don’t want to accept what we find. If you want to find God, He will be known to you. He is Truth.
    There is a saying that one of my professors told me one day and I forget who is quoted saying it and I know I will butcher it.

    If you follow Christ and believe in his teaching and when that day comes and their truly is a God, then you have gained everything.

    If you follow Christ and believe in his teaching and when that day comes that you perish and there is nothing after death, no heaven, no afterlife, etc. If that is the case then you have gained nothing.

    But if you do not follow Christ and accept Him and follow His will, and you die, and you there is a God and you have not been following Him, then you will lose everything.

    I hope that kind of makes sense to you, easier to say than to type.

    One day we all will have to have a “morality clause” and nothing will be left out. But it just depends on if all will be forgiven.

  37. “You know sometimes our Quest for truth moves us further away from God, because we don’t want to accept what we find. If you want to find God, He will be known to you. He is Truth.”That’s definitely true. I want to throw out another possible factor to take into consideration, though: Everyone is different, and everyone has different “requirements” or “needs” when searching for God. You can bombard the emotionally or experientially oriented person with intellecual arguments all day, but it’s not going to bring the “feeler” any closer to finding God. Likewise, you can talk to the intellecutal all you want about experiencing God, feeling God, and the like, but these things won’t bring the “thinker” any closer to Him. Even among thinkers, those who find philosophical arguments more compelling may not find historical arguments very useful, and vice versa. Fortunately, God has provided a wide range of evidences for different types of people. I think Glenn Miller said it well when he pointed out:”This range of arguments, proofs, evidences are strangely comprehensive: there are arguments for the “rationalists” among us (e.g. Anselm, Kalam), for the empiricists (e.g. the resurrection of Christ, the fulfillment of prophecy), for the mystical (e.g. inner religious experience, when correlated to external factors), for the idealists (e.g. appeals to design, teleology, and patterns), for the existentialists (e.g. God as the ONLY meaning-authenticator, URP-type arguments), for the pragmatists (e.g. anthropological arguments, the importance of absolute moral structures)…God has reached down into EVERY apparent area of discourse and investigation–to meet with us…” (http://www.christian-thinktank.com/adam01.html)I guess my point is simply that the seeker should be aware of the different types of evidences out there — don’t look in one place and give up.

  38. “You know sometimes our Quest for truth moves us further away from God, because we don’t want to accept what we find. If you want to find God, He will be known to you. He is Truth.”

    That’s definitely true. I want to throw out another possible factor to take into consideration, though: Everyone is different, and everyone has different
    “requirements” or “needs” when searching for God. You can bombard the emotionally or experientially oriented person with intellecual arguments all day, but it’s not going to bring the “feeler” any closer to finding God.
    Likewise, you can talk to the intellecutal all you want about experiencing God, feeling God, and the like, but these things won’t bring the “thinker” any closer to Him. Even among thinkers, those who find philosophical arguments more compelling may not find historical arguments very useful, and vice versa. Fortunately, God has provided a wide range of evidences for different types of people. I think Glenn Miller said it well when he pointed out:

    “This range of arguments, proofs, evidences are strangely comprehensive: there are arguments for the “rationalists” among us (e.g. Anselm, Kalam), for the empiricists (e.g. the resurrection of Christ, the fulfillment of prophecy), for the mystical (e.g. inner religious experience, when correlated to external factors), for the idealists (e.g. appeals to design, teleology, and patterns), for the existentialists (e.g. God as the ONLY meaning-authenticator, URP-type arguments), for the pragmatists (e.g. anthropological arguments, the importance of absolute moral structures)…God has reached down into EVERY apparent area of discourse and investigation–to meet with us…” (http://www.christian-thinktank.com/adam01.html)

    I guess my point is simply that the seeker should be aware of the different types of evidences out there — don’t look in one place and give up.

  39. The day that Donny becomes offended for me voicing my opinion would be the day that I consider him fully converted. I hope that day never comes.Yeah, glad Donny reacted in print the same way I reacted in my mind on that one. The day I stop hearing other people’s voices, I might as well just be killed off.And John…you don’t need to start every post you make with a disclaimer. You’re friends, you’re honest, you don’t care what we think….we get it :).Though I gotta say that if you guys are such good friends (something I’m not disputing, btw), why is this conversation happening over the intertron? Or maybe it’s an extension of an ongoing conversation?

  40. The day that Donny becomes offended for me voicing my opinion would be the day that I consider him fully converted. I hope that day never comes.

    Yeah, glad Donny reacted in print the same way I reacted in my mind on that one. The day I stop hearing other people’s voices, I might as well just be killed off.

    And John…you don’t need to start every post you make with a disclaimer. You’re friends, you’re honest, you don’t care what we think….we get it :).

    Though I gotta say that if you guys are such good friends (something I’m not disputing, btw), why is this conversation happening over the intertron? Or maybe it’s an extension of an ongoing conversation?

  41. Let’s remove the topic of God altogether: I am done with porn. I can no longer feel good about myself being so selfish that I’m willing to hurt others (like the girl in this blog entry) in order to make a living. I simply do not want to be involved in it anymore.First off it is entirely your choice to quit the industry. I think its great that if its not for you that you are choosing to get out. However it is not correct that someone is selfish because they do make their living as a photographer or site operator in the porn industry. If you are honest with the models, and let them have a realistic understanding of the consequences it is their choice as adults to make if they want to model or not.Adults have to take self responsibility for their actions. It is insulting to their intelligence to think that because they later regret THEIR fully informed choice, that somehow you took advantage of them. If you, or someone else in the industry had committed fraud against them then yes, I could agree that you or that person was acting selfishly. But if they were given all the facts, then it is treating them like a child to say that they cannot make an adult decision about their actions.All businesses make a profit off their employees. Capitalism is based off investors taking on risk and hoping to make a profit off the product their employees create. It is the nature of capitalism. As long as everyone in the venture is fully informed and agrees to this then there is no one being exploited. Think about what you are in effect saying. You are in effect claiming anyone who profits in the adult industry is selfishly profiting by taking advantage somehow of adults who are incapable of making adult decisions and living with the results of those decisions. In effect you are saying both sides are somehow morally or mentally incapable of making fair decisions in life.To say its not for you is one thing and I respect that, but to make wide sweeping claims about the selfishness of people running adult industry businesses, or the inability of adults to make informed decisions if they want to pose or not is insulting to both groups.You may want to think about this before judging the people involved in this industry

  42. Let’s remove the topic of God altogether: I am done with porn. I can no longer feel good about myself being so selfish that I’m willing to hurt others (like the girl in this blog entry) in order to make a living. I simply do not want to be involved in it anymore.

    First off it is entirely your choice to quit the industry. I think its great that if its not for you that you are choosing to get out. However it is not correct that someone is selfish because they do make their living as a photographer or site operator in the porn industry. If you are honest with the models, and let them have a realistic understanding of the consequences it is their choice as adults to make if they want to model or not.

    Adults have to take self responsibility for their actions. It is insulting to their intelligence to think that because they later regret THEIR fully informed choice, that somehow you took advantage of them. If you, or someone else in the industry had committed fraud against them then yes, I could agree that you or that person was acting selfishly. But if they were given all the facts, then it is treating them like a child to say that they cannot make an adult decision about their actions.

    All businesses make a profit off their employees. Capitalism is based off investors taking on risk and hoping to make a profit off the product their employees create. It is the nature of capitalism. As long as everyone in the venture is fully informed and agrees to this then there is no one being exploited.

    Think about what you are in effect saying. You are in effect claiming anyone who profits in the adult industry is selfishly profiting by taking advantage somehow of adults who are incapable of making adult decisions and living with the results of those decisions. In effect you are saying both sides are somehow morally or mentally incapable of making fair decisions in life.

    To say its not for you is one thing and I respect that, but to make wide sweeping claims about the selfishness of people running adult industry businesses, or the inability of adults to make informed decisions if they want to pose or not is insulting to both groups.

    You may want to think about this before judging the people involved in this industry

  43. Why is everyone bashing the boyfriend? Maybe some of you know these people, but I don’t. Based on the story, this girl went out and did this thing thinking she would not get caught. She did, and you fault the boyfriend for not being happy about it?If a girl did something like that to me, it would be splitsville. And that has nothing to do with insecurity or selfishness. The guy MIGHT be a jerk for all I know. Or, he could be an all right guy trying to wish away what his girlfriend did. I can’t know either way. But I don’t see how it could be assumed that he’s such a terrible guy for not liking the fact that his girlfriend sneaked off to make pornos. That’s some pretty heavy deception.Which kind of leads into my next observation. A person’s body is not a “product.” Defenders of pornography try to make it sound like they mass produce steak knives or something. Anon, you talk about these girls as if they were widgets. There are a bazillion ways to exploit someone legally. Furthermore, I didn’t see Mr. Pauling judging anyone but himself. You seem to assume that an introspective comment was pointed at you and your closest friends. (Why is that? I say rhetorically).So young ladies are a “product” yet everyone else is supposed to care about YOUR sensitivities? Hey, you made an “informed” decision when you picked your profeesion, right? You knew you’d draw criticism when you became a porn peddler, so I’ll tell you like you tell your models: LIVE WITH YOUR DECISIONS and quit whining. You have no more right to be liked for what you do than anyone else. If you ever regret your choice of professions, I sure hope you are not treated the way you seem to treat others.The girl, her baby, and the sensitive wise guy are all in my prayers. There is love and forgiveness for us all, no matter how lousy our decisions have been.

  44. Why is everyone bashing the boyfriend? Maybe some of you know these people, but I don’t. Based on the story, this girl went out and did this thing thinking she would not get caught. She did, and you fault the boyfriend for not being happy about it?

    If a girl did something like that to me, it would be splitsville. And that has nothing to do with insecurity or selfishness.

    The guy MIGHT be a jerk for all I know. Or, he could be an all right guy trying to wish away what his girlfriend did. I can’t know either way. But I don’t see how it could be assumed that he’s such a terrible guy for not liking the fact that his girlfriend sneaked off to make pornos. That’s some pretty heavy deception.

    Which kind of leads into my next observation. A person’s body is not a “product.” Defenders of pornography try to make it sound like they mass produce steak knives or something. Anon, you talk about these girls as if they were widgets. There are a bazillion ways to exploit someone legally. Furthermore, I didn’t see Mr. Pauling judging anyone but himself. You seem to assume that an introspective comment was pointed at you and your closest friends. (Why is that? I say rhetorically).

    So young ladies are a “product” yet everyone else is supposed to care about YOUR sensitivities? Hey, you made an “informed” decision when you picked your profeesion, right? You knew you’d draw criticism when you became a porn peddler, so I’ll tell you like you tell your models: LIVE WITH YOUR DECISIONS and quit whining. You have no more right to be liked for what you do than anyone else. If you ever regret your choice of professions, I sure hope you are not treated the way you seem to treat others.

    The girl, her baby, and the sensitive wise guy are all in my prayers. There is love and forgiveness for us all, no matter how lousy our decisions have been.

  45. Why is everyone bashing the boyfriend? Maybe some of you know these people, but I don’t. Based on the story, this girl went out and did this thing thinking she would not get caught. She did, and you fault the boyfriend for not being happy about it?

    If a girl did something like that to me, it would be splitsville. And that has nothing to do with insecurity or selfishness.

    The guy MIGHT be a jerk for all I know. Or, he could be an all right guy trying to wish away what his girlfriend did. I can’t know either way. But I don’t see how it could be assumed that he’s such a terrible guy for not liking the fact that his girlfriend sneaked off to make pornos. That’s some pretty heavy deception.

    Which kind of leads into my next observation. A person’s body is not a “product.” Defenders of pornography try to make it sound like they mass produce steak knives or something. Anon, you talk about these girls as if they were widgets. There are a bazillion ways to exploit someone legally. Furthermore, I didn’t see Mr. Pauling judging anyone but himself. You seem to assume that an introspective comment was pointed at you and your closest friends. (Why is that? I say rhetorically).

    So young ladies are a “product” yet everyone else is supposed to care about YOUR sensitivities? Hey, you made an “informed” decision when you picked your profeesion, right? You knew you’d draw criticism when you became a porn peddler, so I’ll tell you like you tell your models: LIVE WITH YOUR DECISIONS and quit whining. You have no more right to be liked for what you do than anyone else. If you ever regret your choice of professions, I sure hope you are not treated the way you seem to treat others.

    The girl, her baby, and the sensitive wise guy are all in my prayers. There is love and forgiveness for us all, no matter how lousy our decisions have been.

  46. Sorry for the double post. Something weird happened.

  47. Sorry for the double post. Something weird happened.

  48. Hey Donny you are on the right track. Everyone needs to pray for Belinda and the model and the boyfriend. For people who think that the crying model has just herself to blame, I think you are wrong. Is the thief only to blame or the guy who buys the stolen goods. The main thing is that the sin is against God. King David after he committed murder and adultery, prayed to God and said against you alone have I sinned. Porn hurts women, it hurts the men looking at it, I know. Porn becomes an addiction, it ruins lives. All have sinned and come short of the glory of God. There are none good, no not one. People you need to be saved from your sins before you have to pay for them. Turn from your sins, put your trust in Jesus, and read your bible. God Bless. http://www.goodpersontest.com

  49. Hey Donny you are on the right track. Everyone needs to pray for Belinda and the model and the boyfriend. For people who think that the crying model has just herself to blame, I think you are wrong. Is the thief only to blame or the guy who buys the stolen goods. The main thing is that the sin is against God. King David after he committed murder and adultery, prayed to God and said against you alone have I sinned. Porn hurts women, it hurts the men looking at it, I know. Porn becomes an addiction, it ruins lives. All have sinned and come short of the glory of God. There are none good, no not one. People you need to be saved from your sins before you have to pay for them. Turn from your sins, put your trust in Jesus, and read your bible. God Bless. http://www.goodpersontest.com

  50. dang. she posed nude for internet and now she’s surprised she is on the World Wide Web? duh!
    although it’s a sad story for her and I honestly feel sorry, she needs a brain.
    i don’t think you lured her on the business, she took the decision and as an adult has to bear the consequenses. may God help her.

    and for the morality clause? I think that could be ealisy attacked by a good lawyer… except if you work on the local church or so;ething of course…

  51. dang. she posed nude for internet and now she’s surprised she is on the World Wide Web? duh!
    although it’s a sad story for her and I honestly feel sorry, she needs a brain.
    i don’t think you lured her on the business, she took the decision and as an adult has to bear the consequenses. may God help her.

    and for the morality clause? I think that could be ealisy attacked by a good lawyer… except if you work on the local church or so;ething of course…

  52. Yeah, I’m sure posing in playboy ruined vanna white’s slife, stephanie seymores, elle macphersons, jenny mccarthy’s, raquel welches, pam anderson, et cetara. paaaleasase…

  53. Yeah, I’m sure posing in playboy ruined vanna white’s slife, stephanie seymores, elle macphersons, jenny mccarthy’s, raquel welches, pam anderson, et cetara. paaaleasase…

  54. can i publish an excerpt from this on my website?
    thanks.

  55. can i publish an excerpt from this on my website?
    thanks.

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  57. Have any of these women recovered financially?

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