I just received this as a comment on my post about The Game. I feel it deserves it’s own blog entry.
I am a former model for you, I do not want to use my name because of what I experienced with that, but I did want to comment. I have been reading your blog for a few months, and I am very impressed. I’ll admit, I was shocked at first just because I stumbled upon your blog and was like “whoa”.
I found this post exceptionally personal, to me at least, because if you remember my “finding out” involved some very damaging events involving my boyfriend, and some friends of his. Like so many other young women, it made my life a living hell. And like I’m sure you realize now, most women posing for you were already going through a personal hell that had brought them there.
I am very sorry for what you are going through, in a way, I’ve been there. It seems almost ironic that 2 years ago you were telling me that my boyfriend should be more open-minded and concilatory to me posing.
What I learned from the experience was that it made me a stronger individual, and I hope (as it seems it has) that it does the same for you. Even then, I knew you were an extremely GOOD person, something I could never explain to anyone else adequately when asked, but I myself knew to be true.
Thank you for your grace. There are many models I’d like to look in the face and tell them I’m sorry. I want them to see that I mean it. If you run across any other girls who’ve modeled for me please tell them to read my blog and to contact me via email if they’re willing to do so. I want to apologize to them.
And to you, I am so sorry for what you went through. I can’t express in words how truly sorry I am. I wish I’d have felt your pain on a deeper level as it happened, because if I really deeply understood I’d have stopped long ago. All I can really say is that I was in a different place back then.
Honestly, I don’t know how to make up for it. I ask myself that question from time to time and as of yet don’t have an answer.
Again, thank you for your grace and for saying that you felt I was still a good person. I really appreciate that. I would like to make a promise to you and to the other girls that I’ll spend the rest of my life doing whatever I reasonably can do to keep others from having to go through what you went through.
– Donny –